Prep Your Fruit: Wash and chop your rhubarb as directed. Combine the chopped rhubarb and raspberries (thawed if frozen) in a very large, heavy-bottomed pot or Dutch oven.
Add the Pectin and Lemon Juice: In a small bowl, mix the pectin powder with about ¼ cup of the measured sugar (from your 4½ cups total). Add this pectin-sugar mixture and the lemon juice to the pot with the fruit.
Cook the Fruit: Place the pot over high heat and bring the mixture to a full, rolling boil that cannot be stirred down. Stir constantly to prevent sticking.
Add Remaining Sugar: Once you've reached that hard boil, stir in the remaining 4¼ cups of sugar gradually. Keep stirring as it dissolves.
Boil Again: Bring the mixture back to a full, rolling boil that cannot be stirred down. Start timing NOW and boil hard for exactly 1 minute, stirring constantly. This minute of intense boiling is crucial for setting the jam.
Remove from Heat and Skim: Take the pot off the heat. If using, stir in the teaspoon of butter now. Carefully skim off any foam that has risen to the surface using a metal spoon.
Fill Jars (If Canning): If you're canning your jam for shelf stability, ladle the hot jam immediately into hot, sterilized jars, leaving about ¼ inch of headspace at the top. Wipe the rims clean with a damp cloth, center lids on jars, and screw on bands fingertip tight.
Process Jars (If Canning): Place filled jars in a boiling water canner, ensuring they are covered by at least 1 inch of water. Bring the water back to a full boil and process for the time recommended for your altitude (check the pectin box instructions for specific times).
Cool and Check Seals: Carefully remove jars from the canner and place them on a towel on the counter to cool completely (this can take 12-24 hours). You'll hear the satisfying "pop" as the lids seal. Check seals by pressing the center of the lid – it should be concave and not spring back.
For Refrigerator/Freezer Jam: If not canning, let the jam cool slightly in the pot, then ladle into clean jars or freezer-safe containers, leaving headspace for expansion if freezing.